The Pull Up a Chair Intensive is deep couples work done in a single stretch — a day, or a weekend, one couple at a time — instead of an hour a week for half a year. For relationships ready to change something, not just talk about it again.
You get warmed up, something true starts to surface — and the timer goes. Then it's a week of ordinary life before you pick it up again, half-cooled. For some couples that slow rhythm is right. For others, it's why nothing quite shifts.
An intensive gives you the opposite: an unhurried block of time to move through the whole arc in one go — long enough to reach the miss, sit with it, and build the moves that break it, while the momentum is still warm. Most couples say a weekend does what months of weekly sessions were circling around.
Because the room is built from queer experience, you don't spend the first hours explaining your family, your history, or the shape of your relationship. We start with what's actually happening between you, and use the time on that.
No one hands queer couples a map. An intensive is a stretch of time to draw a few of the ones you were never given.
Two of you, or more than two. Monogamous, open, or polyamorous. Trans, nonbinary and gender-diverse partners welcome. We use your names, your pronouns, and your words for your relationship — from the first minute.
We begin with a proper look at your relationship — its history, its strengths, and the loop you keep landing in — drawing on a Gottman-style assessment you complete before we meet. No performing, no translating.
Together we name the miss — the moment one of you reaches and the other doesn't quite land — and slow it right down, so you can both finally see the pattern instead of living inside it.
Drawing on Gottman and Esther Perel's work on desire and repair, we build the few concrete moves that break the loop and bring you back — not just calmer, but wanting each other again. You leave with them written down.
ADHD and autistic partners who love differently — different wiring, different sensory and communication needs. Worked with, not around.
When one partner is questioning or exploring their sexuality or gender, and you want to stay close through it — together, at a pace that protects everyone.
Structuring, opening up, jealousy, or a whole polycule in the room — held clinically, by someone who won't need the basics explained.
You're not in crisis — you want to reach for each other again, on purpose. Intensives aren't only for repair; they're for depth.
First Nations queer couples are warmly held here — this is an Aboriginal-led practice. However you love, you belong in the room as you are.
A 50% deposit secures your dates and starts your assessment; the balance is due before your first day. Private fee, GST-free — relationship therapy isn't claimable through Medicare or private health. Payment plans available on request, so the timing works for you. You'll know the full cost before you commit anything.
Start with a free 15-minute discovery call. No pressure, no explaining yourselves first — just an honest talk about whether an intensive is right for you.
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